Compound Cost of Rebellion

A rebellious man seeks only evil, So a cruel messenger will be sent against him.…Proverbs 17:11

uh oh.

This, in its highest reference, is an anticipation of the divine philosophy of St John, “sin is lawlessness” (ἡ ἁμαρτία ἐστὶν ἡ ἀνομία). “Sin is lawlessness. Sin and lawlessness are convertible terms. Sin is not an arbitrary conception; it is the assertion of the selfish will against a paramount authority. He who sins breaks, not only by accident or in an isolated detail, but essentially, the law which he was created to fulfill,” Westcott on 1 John 3:4.

ouch.

“He that kicks against the pricks is waited for of the sword.” (Ancient Greek proverb)

…like the rebellious ox—driving the goad deeper and deeper.

“Stern discipline awaits him who leaves the path” (Proverbs 15:10).

Brutally true.

“The way of the unfaithful is hard” (Proverbs 13:15).

No kidding. This must be the greatest understatement ever made.

Why I Am A Male Chauvinist

She describes a perspective I share with her better than I ever could.

Female Misogynist

Recently a commenter suggested that I post about how I became a female misogynist. I’ve been thinking about what to post.

I could summarize my life story, which has been an object lesson – though far from the worst one I know of – in the disastrous effects of allowing women power in society, but then, whose hasn’t? Most people of my generation and younger had mothers who were happy to be told that being a mother was something you could do in your spare time, between more important, “fulfilling” pursuits.

No one has been able to remain unaware that our schools, which are run almost entirely by women, have become hotbeds of violence and sexual assault in which little if any “learning” takes place, so I don’t need to recount my personal saga of spending my childhood being beaten up and groped by boys while the teachers watched happily…

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Human Being vs. Human Doing

As our President Elect makes putting everyone to work at any expense to the planet, progress or rationality, I am reminded that I am a human being and not a human doing.

Gen-X-perience

A little more than a year ago, included in one of the poems being
written at the time, is a verse that conveys a question I had about the
subject of worth. After some reflection, what I realized is that
significance and worthiness are concepts that interfere with my
understanding of purpose.

Although our society and our physical needs require that people work or
labor in order to provide for themselves and one another, it is not the
work that has the significance. An epiphany of sorts was my realizing
that my purpose is not to work. The reason for my creation and subsequent survival
was never about having a job.

My purpose is to be exactly what I am best capable of being and making sure this being is
available when it matters.

This capability can and is often developed
through work, but work is the tool and not…

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Being Influenced by Someone Else’s Emotions

I think it’s fa3734f3ddd49651909ee177b15d4d4262ir to say that people, for the most part, when addressing a topic that they are invested in with considerable emotion, tend to oversimplify, polarize and in some cases, do everything in their power to make their point an emotional investment for those they are engaging with, as well.

And, because I think it matters, when people are arguing or just discussing things that are associated with strong emotion, it isn’t necessarily the same emotion they appeal to if when seeming to intend evoking a reaction from someone else.

The person who has anger attached to a subject could be appealing to someone else’s feelings of fear, for example. Emotion isn’t rational. Hence, it can’t make rational decisions. It is, however, amazingly effective in triggering emotion in other people, and much to other people’s dismay and surprise, at times. When someone is arguing with you or even just taking a very forceful position that seems polarized, it’s not a bad idea to determine if the person is attaching an emotion and which emotion is at play. The reason for doing this is to prepare yourself and brace against being pulled away from your own attempts to remain rational and reasonable by appeals to your emotion. Because it happens suddenly like a club over the head. This can be circumvented when you assume the risk is present and watch for it with every statement the other person makes.

 

Put Some Clothes On

Nothing says rational, nothing says mature, adult behavior, nothing says integrity, nothing says cohesive principles and nothing says unambiguity like 100 adult women representating their message of respect for all women and “nature” naked to a major national political media event.

Because objectifying women’s bodies is completely reasonable when done by those who use their bodies to garner attention they could not otherwise influence through less “empowered” avenues.

Because it is perfectly undetstandable that nudity is acceptable when women choose to manipulate their environment to pay them heed no matter what anyone thinks or how it may offend or confound the public.

These women and those supporting their antics are a laughing stock, confirming yet again the irrational, immature impetuous character disorder of feminist ideology.

You are an embarrassment to women and all adults. Evidently, not all women of adult age have the requisite mental maturity to be considered adults.
Which makes this stunt that much more disturbing if even possible.

Go put your clothes on and act your age. Or, at least make an effort. Any one can get naked. It doesn’t require much thought. Be really shocking and try using logical argument to persuade instead of weilding your sexual organs as weapons.

And while you’re up, find a dictionary and look up the word “hypocrisy”. That’s you.

On Life’s Terms

The concept of truth and law has forever appealed to some part of me that seeks an anchor. Truth and law, in my perspective, share this quality of immutability. Truth cares not at all what anyone’s opinion of it is, nor does it care if it is denied outright or perverted. It remains impervious to influence or time. It stands unchanged.

Something I say  often is that true laws are not broken. We don’t break the law. We break ourselves against a law.

This can comforting idea has carried me across more than one tide of a raging sea of human created storms of emotional insanity. My own, but more so those of others. Women in particular seem implausibly unaware or uninterested in the very real fact that our emotionally charged behaviors have an impact on the people and circumstances in their environment. Usually, the fallout has negative effects that go both unacknowledged and unaccounted for.

Partially so..accountability falls instead to someone else who must shoulder the aftermath of another person’s emotional life.

I am not suggesting that this tendency towards emoting is bad in and of itself. What is bad is the associated tendency to both deny this fact and to not be responsible for how it impacts others.

Men give women great feedback all the time that is wasted on denials and resentments that could instead be used to expand understanding, practice self control and generally, be happier.

I have been working construction jobs that have really pushed me physically and mentally. I’m finally returning to my pre-illness weight and muscle tone but it’s more taxing than it was a few years ago.

This is because of one of life’s truths: as time progresses, our bodies change as we pass through the seasons that will eventually become our demise. Living things get old and die. By the grace of God, that is if not cut down sooner by accident, injury or illness.

 

Simple truth. Not pleasant, yet undeniable.

Because of my work, I engage with both younger men and those about my age every day. I take this opportunity to talk about relationships to women and what’s going on in their lives. Many are single dads.

One of my signature lectures is about choosing t

 

 

 

What You Think is None of My Business

“How can we know what other people think about us?”
I gave an answer to this question asked on Quora.

TL;DR: If I focus on actionable behaviors that reflect my values, what other people think about me is really none of my business unless I need to correct something about what I am doing.

A friend gave me wise council about a problem I had about what other people thought about me. In this instance, my specific problem was in the context of my new position with a software company in role that required working with people who, frankly, were my superior in every way with regards to programming, industry knowledge and architectural mastery. I was intimidated and afraid of failing.

I had almost convinced myself that I would probably be summarily dismissed and thought incompetent by virtue of simply not having the  ‘pedigree’  the people working in this engineering group had. As hires go, I was atypical to the group as far as demographics.

So, struggling against my own doubt and insecurity, I sought the advice of my friend and he asked me to think about the following and then apply what it informed me as to this concern of mine.

His advice was something like this:

There are, if you will, four kinds of people that you will meet.

People who will like you for the wrong reasons;People who will like you for the right reasons;
People who will dislike you for the wrong reasons; andPeople who will dislike you for the right reasons.

Of these groups, there is only one that you should be rightly concerned about what they think of you.

What the other groups of people think are either beyond the scope of your influence or otherwise not any of your business.

People who like you, like you for reasons, right or wrong, but because they have determined to like you, what they think about you takes care of itself.

People who dislike you for reasons that are wrong (i.e. arbitrary, irrational, prejudicial)  do not share similar values with you, and therefore whatever they think about you will always be colored by those values and thus, will not have any worth in your knowing what they are. In other words, knowing what they think doesn’t add any value to your benefit.

However, the last group of people, those that dislike you for the right reasons, are those whose thinking should legitimately concern you.

Because of all of these people, those that dislike you for reasons that you believe are justified are the only people who provide you the opportunity to recognize and change what it is you actually should change.

What anyone thinks about us, in general, is only our business when we are invited to know because they are shared with us directly, or we become a stakeholder in someone else’s thoughts about us as a result of our being accountable to what is valued.

For what it’s worth, I did learn something that I would apply to the concerns I had.
In effect, it established the general attitude I take to new work projects and people.

This includes foremost a respect for the role each person contributes, the humility to recognize what I do and do not know and the courage to admit and correct my own limitations and errors.

How this translates personally from my own values is most evident as principles I apply about the value of a person’s time and one that considers how my decisions affect those working downstream of what I am doing.

I also learned from working with brilliant and expertly skilled people, that often the best contribution I will make is making it incumbent upon myself to be cognizant of not impeding other’s progress by inefficient use of time or being a source of obstacles in other people’s path.

No one should have to trip over what I am doing in order get shit done. I think this was why my colleagues at the new job liked me, despite whatever they thought about my proletarian education, MENSA member status, or taste in shoes.

And, this is, pretty much, the best I can hope to achieve with regards to what others may think.

Focus on addressing operant behaviors with regards to how I engage with others and if it’s any of my business, consider the subjective things (like personal opinions, constructs and preferences) if it adds value.

Feminist Entitlement to Male Spaces

Why are feminist women so fucking pathetic? – http://wp.me/p63zGP-2qX

JB doesn’t spare any words when she calls out the women crying foul for being excluded from a male-only space.

The bottom line is all about control. Women who make the hypocritical, fallacious arguments such as those made by Laura Bates are operating from a belief that they are entitled to be involved with whatever men are doing anywhere it’s being done to either show how “equal” they are or to monitor the activity for behavior that isn’t feminist-approved.

And every single time a golf club or an institution panders to these demands and gives over their spaces to intruding feminist bullies, they weaken the fabric of our society.

Please, please stop giving in to these demands. We recognize you may be attempting to compromise in good faith, but you are admitting lunacy, not rational adults, into your space.
They intend to dismantle all that was built, ridicule all tradition, demonize it, even.

You will be left standing emasculated wondering what happened to your balls. Well, when you open the waters to piranhas and sharks, expect to lose a few pounds of flesh.

These women have a taste for devouring what defines you.
You would be well warned to fight them as if you were defending your life..because, ultimately, you are.

I, too, will enthusiastically volunteer to stand outside and defend your space against these mutants.

Just say the word.